One of the most difficult things that may happen to you after a breakup is wanting your ex back.
Surprisingly, this happens to a lot of people; sometime after ending a relationship, they realize they truly love their former partner and become eager to win them back.
This isn’t an easy goal to achieve, however, due to various reasons that only your ex knows.
Don’t fret, though. While it can be hard to accomplish, winning your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back is doable. You just need a lot of patience and a clear intention as to why you want him or her back. Among the best ways that can help you achieve this goal are:
1. Get yourself back together
It’s expected that you feel lost and broken after enduring the breakup, but after spending time to cry and vent, you have to get back on your feet as soon as you can. Find ways to uplift your confidence by doing a makeover and shaping up –both physically and emotionally.
You have to bring back the person you were back when he or she first got attracted to you, the person they wanted to be with. Once you have that re-established, the more likely will they take an interest at you again.
2. Act like you were not affected by the breakup
Faking it may be hard to do, but yes, it is necessary when you are trying to get your ex back. You have to act like you have already moved on from the pain and are not affected by the breakup at all. This is necessary because it triggers the other party’s pride in one way or another.
If your partner broke up with you because they chose another person, acting like you were not affected somehow ticks their nerves in a way that they couldn’t believe you’ve actually moved on from what happened.
3. Let them notice you, but don’t make the first move to reach out
It is important that you make your ex notice you. However, you have to do this subliminally. Show off in your social media accounts by flaunting your post-breakup confident self, making a good impression on the friends you share with them, and by shrugging off the topic about your breakup.
However, it is also a must that you do not make the first move when reaching out to your ex. This will only make your intentions obvious, and doing so just makes it seems like your efforts are all because you want them back in your life.
4. Rekindle the friendship, but don’t go overboard
Once your ex reaches out to you, indulge in a conversation. Talk to them, enjoy the chats and even the succeeding meetups. Savor the time you two are rebuilding the friendship that died along with the breakup, but at the same time don’t go overboard.
Remind yourself that you two are just friends and nothing more yet. This is because your ex needs to realize the salience of your presence in their lives, now more than ever. They have to wake up on their own and not be nudged by you.
5. Do the things you wished you did back when you were still in a relationship
Were there things you regret not doing when you were still a couple? In this phase, you may want to bring them to life. These may include cooking them a scrumptious meal, writing them sweet letters, attending events that are special to their life (such as games in which they are players), and even being friends with the people that matter to them.
It is important that you get to do the things you missed out on because these are the things that your ex most likely looked for when you two were still together.
